The Private Keep-Apart

The problem

Two people who cannot sit together, and no way to arrange it without everyone finding out.

What this does about it

How any couple can handle the difficult placements so the room works and nobody ever sees the working.

What it is

Say it once, privately. It shapes the plan and appears on nothing you print, share or hand over.

What we ascribe to it

€240. One avoided family incident at a twenty-thousand-pound event. Judgement, not arithmetic.

That figure is what this would cost you to solve another way, not a claim about what it is worth. Five of the nine parts anchor to something real and four are a judgement call, which is why the total is always stated as what paying for each separately would come to.

Everything in it

All 34, and every one is included.

• keep-apart rule set once
• pre-print adjacency check
• warn when a pair you keep apart sits unevenly against the top table
• it works from the keep-apart you already set, never a guess about who your parents are
• the divorced-parents guide
• verify no private note can reach a printed output
• private note per guest, never printed
• keep-apart with no visible reason
• keep-together rule
• warn when honouring it unbalances a table
• the constraint applied with no reason stored on any output
• private keep-apart, no reason shown
• show exactly what a demanded change would break
• move one guest, everything else holds
• undo history
• memorial place or note on the plan
• guide to the empty chair
• wording for a memorial card
• line-of-sight checking as well as adjacency
• keep-apart across whole groups
• the written blended-family guide
• multiple family groups without sides
• blended-family seating guide
• suggest pairings from shared tags
• a written note on doing it tastefully
• private keep-together with no reason shown
• show whose request is unmet and why
• detect the conflict and suggest a resolution
• seat flagged guests away from the bar
• a written brief for the venue coordinator
• private note visible only to the couple
• park a guest and carry on planning
• a written prompt that names the fear so it stops blocking the rest
• plan around an unresolved placement

How you get it

It is included. There is no tier that holds it back and nothing here is sold separately: The One-Evening Seating Plan is one price, €179, and you can build your whole plan before you pay anything.